From Conflict, To Collaboration
From Conflict,
To Collaboration
Conflict resolution that cares for everyone involved.
Are you…
➤ Stuck in a seemingly impossible to resolve conflict and unsure what to do about it?
➤ In a conflict with someone and worried about what might happen if something doesn’t change?
➤ Postponing or completely avoiding an important conversation that you really should have?
➤ Sick and tired of arguing and not being able to get along or work together?
➤ Worried because an important decision needs to be made, but there’s a disagreement about what to do that’s holding up progress?
Then you could benefit from mediation.
Any conflict can be resolved in a way that works for everyone involved – without compromise.
Mediation is an opportunity to…
Express yourself honestly and be fully heard.
Address what’s in the way of harmony – the anger, resentment, guilt, shame, hurt, sadness, etc.
Be heard without correcting, blaming, shaming, or fixing.
Heal past pain and (re)build the trust between you and the other participant.
Create clear and actionable agreements that work for everyone involved.
Resolve your conflict in a way that cares for the dignity and humanity of everyone involved.
The Conflict Resolution Process
Discovery Call
Let’s get on a video call, talk a bit about your specific conflict, and see if working together is a mutual good fit. The Discovery Call may be together with the other party or separate, whatever works best for you. Schedule a free Discovery call here.
The First Mediation Session
Mediation sessions are 3 hours.
➤ Hour 1: After a brief check-in altogether, each participant will meet with the mediator individually for approximately 30 minutes.
➤ Hours 2 & 3: Both participants and the mediator will meet altogether for a 2-hour conversation.
Create A Plan
If the conflict still exists at the end of the first session, the mediator will advise both participants on how to best proceed. Together we’ll make a short-term plan that will include a follow-up mediation session and possibly one or two 1:1 coaching sessions for each participant.
Reevaluate & Repeat
The path to resolution is different for every relationship, and the conflict resolution process isn’t always linear; there will likely be ups and downs. Along the way, we’ll remain in dialogue about how the situation is progressing, what still needs to be addressed, and how to best move forward.
Mediation Sessions
Mediation sessions are 3 hours.
Hour 1:
➤ A brief check-in altogether (1-2 minutes per person to share about their day and how they’re doing).
➤ 2 x 30 min individual sessions: Each participant will meet with the mediator individually for approximately 30 minutes. One-on-one time at the beginning of each mediation session is to build trust and help each participant get clear about the most important message they want to convey.
Hours 2 & 3:
➤ Participants meet together with the mediator for a 2-hour conversation. The mediator will support both participants to move foward towards harmony and collaboration by helping them express themselves beyond judgement and hear the humanity in each other.
➤ The mediator will support both participants to search for solutions, and create clear and actionable agreements that work for both of them – genuine win/win solutions that don’t involve any amount of compromise.
1:1 Coaching Sessions
1:1 coaching sessions are 90 minutes.
These sessions are an opportunity to fully express yourself and be heard without judgement. During sessions, I will suggest certain processes (role-plays, parts work, communication practices, etc) that we can do together to further explore your specific challenges and support you to more deeply connect to yourself.
As you share about your conflict and experience being heard and understood, whatever is blocking the natural flow of compassion within you ⎯ the anger, resentment, frustration, irritation, annoyance, disgust, guilt, shame, hurt, sadness, fear, etc. ⎯ will melt away, and you will reconnect to your natural and true self ⎯ a space that is calm, clear, creative, compassionate, courageous, and beyond conflict.
1:1 Coaching Sessions
Each 1:1 coaching session is 90 minutes.
These sessions are an opportunity to fully express yourself and be heard without judgement. As you share about your conflict and experience being heard and understood, whatever is blocking the natural flow of compassion within you ⎯ the anger, resentment, frustration, irritation, annoyance, disgust, guilt, shame, hurt, sadness, fear, etc. ⎯ will melt away, and you will reconnect to your natural and true self ⎯ a space that is calm, clear, creative, compassionate, courageous, and beyond conflict.
Compromise 🙁, Win/Win 🤩
Hello, I’m Simon Wiskowski 👋🏼
Hello,
I’m Simon Wiskowski 👋🏼
Mediator & Conflict Coach
As a mediator & coach, I bring my experience in Nonviolent Communication and conflict resolution to help clients express themselves beyond judgement, hear each other with an open heart, and resolve conflict in a way that cares for the well-being of everyone involved.
I believe that conflict is an opportunity to better serve life, and that with courage and patience, there’s no conflict that can’t be resolved.
I like to spend time in solitude and silence, go for walks in nature, meditate, and play with my cat Willow. I also love Buddhism, particularly the Thai Forest lineage, and cooking vegan meals.
If I had to express the purpose of my life in one word, it would be peace.
REad More of my story...
Conflict has had a presence in my life for as long as I can remember…
My parents divorced when I was eight, and their inability to effectively communicate led to a bitter separation that took a decade in court to resolve.
A few years after their separation, tired of the court mandated visitation schedule impacting my musical pursuits in school, I requested a change to the visitation schedule, which my father resisted. As he was unwilling to search for a resolution that worked for us both, I hired a lawyer to represent me in court and was eventually granted the ability to decide for myself how and with whom I spent my time.
Unfortunately, the process deeply impacted the connection between my father and I, and we eventually stopped seeing and speaking to each other. The next time my father and I communicated was when I reached out to try to reconnect with him… seventeen years later.
I know firsthand the pain that can arise out of conflict, and I now do the work that I do to be the resource for others that I desperately needed long ago.
Education
Professional trainings
As a participant:
As an assistant:
Mediation with Simon
As a mediator I will:
Hello how are you?
Hi I’m doing well.
As a mediator I will not:
➤ Determine which party is right or wrong.
➤ Judge either party as good or bad.
➤ Tell either party what they should do to solve the conflict.
➤ Allow one party to dominate the conversation.
What clients are saying about their experience…
Be heard without correcting, blaming, shaming, or fixing.
Money
As a mediator I will not:
Hello, how are you?
Hello how are you?
As a mediator I will not:
➤ Determine which party is right or wrong.
➤ Judge either party as good or bad.
➤ Tell either party what they should do to solve the conflict.
➤ Allow one party to dominate the conversation.
Frequently Asked Questions
If you have a question that’s not answered here, please feel free to reach out using the contact form at the bottom of the page.
What if the other person doesn't want mediation?
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What if my conflict involves more than one other person?
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How many sessions will it take to resolve my conflict?
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Ready to resolve your conflict?
Get Started
1. Discovery Call
Let’s get on a video call, talk a bit about your specific situation, and see if working together is a mutual good fit. The Discovery Call may be together with the other party or separate, whatever works best for you. Schedule a free Discovery Call here.
2. Check-in with the other party
After your Discovery Call, the next step is to check-in with the other party, inform them of your desire for mediation, and see if they want to participate in the process. All sessions are conducted on the basis of voluntary participation.
3. Schedule a session
If the other party agrees to participate, schedule a mediation session below.
If the other party declines to participate, schedule a 1:1 coaching session below.
Schedule a session:
Free Discovery Call
Includes:
➤ 1 x 20 minute introductory call
Mediation Session
Includes:
➤ 2 x 30 minute individual sessions
➤ 2 hours together
1:1 Coaching Session
Includes:
➤ 1 x 90 minute 1:1 coaching session
Free Discovery Call
Includes:
➤ 1 x 20 minute introductory call
Contact
Have a question? Please feel free to reach out. I’d love to hear from you!